D. G. Kaye
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Good morning, Debbie, and welcome to Vision and Verse, the Place for Art and Authors. What have you written?
Conflicted Hearts – A daughter’s quest for solace from emotional guilt
Meno-What? A Memoir – Memorable moments of menopause.
Words We Carry - Essays of Obsession and Self-Esteem
Words We Carry - Essays of Obsession and Self-Esteem
Menopause, good subject. If you don't need that information now, you will later. What is your favorite genre to write?
I love being a nonfiction memoir writer to share issues about the things we encounter in life and relay messages of overcoming.
This is a tough question because I’m not a real foodie. I’m a health nut and I have several food allergies. I like to eat healthy whole foods. But I’d have to say that I really enjoy Middle-Eastern cuisine.
Tea or coffee?
Both. I need my morning cup of coffee and I’m good for the day, unless of course I am out and pass a Timothy’s or Second Cup coffee house, then I will grab a soy or almond milk latte. I prefer assorted teas in the evening. No coffee after 5pm or I can’t sleep.
Pizza or ice cream?
Sadly, neither. I am gluten and dairy-free. But I do enjoy a piece of chocolate after dinner.
Where would you like to visit?
I recently returned from Arizona and would love to seek out a winter home there and become a snowbird.
Favorite musical artist.
I love music. I need it when I wake and while I’m driving. I love R & B, the seventies bands and artists like Alicia Keyes, Sade and Motown music.
Do you listen to music when you write? What?
I can’t listen to music or have the TV on when I’m writing. It distracts my train of thought.
What makes you laugh?
Ah, my favourite past-time, laughing. I love to try to find the humour in everything. And I enjoy making others laugh. I enjoy listening to funny stories and watching a select few of TV sitcoms such as The Mindy Project and Modern Family. I love to smile all the time, it’s contagious and is such an effortless way to brighten someone else’s day.
I am fascinated by The Mona Lisa. Her ordinary looks with a knowing, stoic look keeps me wondering what she knew or was thinking. I’m also intrigued by Da Vinci’s motives for creating her. I saw it decades ago on a trip to Paris.
How old were you when you started writing?
I began writing little ‘love notes’ and making cards for my parents and teachers when I was about six or seven. I knew back then how cathartic it felt to put my feelings on paper. By the time I was ten, I was sure I wanted to be a journalist. In my early teens, I began writing poetry. I then began writing in journals about the dysfunctional life I was growing up in. I had told my friends for decades I wanted to write books, but the time never seemed right until a few years ago.
Describe your perfect evening.
A warm desert evening, sitting on my back patio, overlooking the mountains, having wine and dinner with good friends.
Where do you get your inspiration?
My inspiration always come from events or situations I’ve lived through. I get inspired to write and share with readers so that they may be able to take something from, or identify with my writing by comparing my stories with something they may be going through or have gone through. My writing always contains a struggle and how I choose to resolve and overcome.
What do you do when you get a writer's block?
I force myself to sit and remember incidents in my life, which eventually spark a new memory. Occasionally, I may have to stand up and look out the window for a while, or get a glass of water as a distraction, but I plant myself right back in the chair. When I allot writing time or word count limits for the day, I don’t stop until I’ve reached them.
Who is your favorite author?
I love Nora Ephron.
Best book you ever read.
The Thornbirds by Colleen McCullough.
Last book you read.
Living in the Shadow by Deborah Stevens.
What would you do for a living if you weren’t a writer?
I’d retire. Now as a writer, that goal will never be attainable.
Who is the one person who has influenced your personal life the most and why?
One of my two best friends, Zan. I met her just after I moved away from home. I was barely twenty and quite ignorant of the world, carrying a much damaged soul. We became fast friends and she taught me all about love and happiness and pried open my introverted soul.
If you could sit down and have a conversation with ONE person, living or dead, real or fictional, who would it be and why?
I would love to sit down with my Aunty Sherry who was more like a mother to me when I was young. She died well over twenty years ago, and she was the only person who really knew me and my struggles as a child. After going through many hardships with my narcissistic mother (my aunt's sister), and never finding out the truth from my aunt why my mother was so damaged, I would have loved to learn about both of their damaging pasts; particularly what spurred my mother to reinvent herself and live her life in her built up ego.
What advice would you give someone who aspired to be a writer?
Write every day. Write what you think and feel and what you know about. Commit to word counts or hours to pursue your writing. Write because you love to, not because of financial gain aspirations. Often the financial rewards for a writer aren’t enough to make a living off until you’re well established. Many of us writers do aspire to make a living from our writing, but it is for the love of writing that keeps us going. Write because you are passionate about writing, without any other ulterior reason.
Do you have some links for us to follow you?
My newest book, Words We Carry – Essays of Obsessions and Self-Esteem, will be out in mid-to-late October of 2014.
Thanks for being with us this morning, Debbie. We at Vision and Verse wish you continued success in all your writing endeavors.